Even in the best of times, it may be a difficult task to put the essence of another person into words. When you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, it can be especially daunting. If, to write a eulogy, you only have a few days – that makes it even harder. Is there a way to make the process easier?
Understanding exactly what the eulogy is – and what it isn’t – is a good beginning. As opposed to an obituary, a eulogy deals with more than just facts. It delves deeper into who the person truly was. It adds a personal touch.
Eulogies are what make services memorable and heart-warming. If you are giving the eulogy, you are talking about what that person meant to you. Make sure, before you share your writings with other mourners, you organize your thoughts and feelings. Here are some suggestions if you find yourself needing to write a eulogy for a friend or loved one:
It’s Okay to Feel
Recognize that it’s okay and normal to feel emotional and nervous. Everybody wants you to do well and will support you. It’s okay to cry if you get upset. You’re going through the grieving process, just like everyone else.
Stay the Course
When you’re grieving, it’s hard to think straight, much less write something as important as a eulogy. But don’t give up. You may need to step away from it for a while and come back with a fresh train of thought. Stick with it, because it will be worth it in the end.
Make Sure to Edit
Hopefully, you were given enough time to write down your ideas. Make sure you edit them before you read them out loud if you’re not good at memorizing. Have someone else read it before you settle on a final copy.
Humor Is Healthy
Laughter can be very healing. If you have a funny story or two about the deceased, don’t be afraid to share it.
It’s Not All about You
Yes, this is about how you perceived the deceased and possibly your relationship with them. But remember, the essence of your eulogy is about the other person, not you.
Keep It Exciting or Interesting
Consider throwing a few lively anecdotes in there. Super bland eulogies, though common, just don’t work. Rather than saying the person was generous, describe how you were impressed by their generosity and ways in which they showed their kindness.
Ask for Suggestions
Especially if you’re the only one being asked to speak, make sure you ask for suggestions from close relatives, friends, etc., and for any stories they may want to share.
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